Kundali Matching Selecting an Ideal Wife

It’s a tradition in India to go for matchmaking of horoscopes of prospective bride andbridegroom.  Parents of boy look forward for an ideal wife for their son and parents of girl look forward for an ideal husband for their daughter. Let us try to understand what should be the important things we need to check for an ideal wifeor the prospective bride astrologically.

The girl in question should have

1. Long life – It is easy to understand as in India and in South East Asian countries wives take care of home and children and have more participation in society than men. In case of widower there would be a big issue for the husband. The problem of putting up children without wifeis also a problem. Also the problem of remarriage will occur in case of death of wifeat early age and fate of children would also get connected to it. In Astrology houses 1 5 9 10 11 increase longevity whereas houses 6 8 12 and Badhak reduce longevity.

2. Good health – The prospective bride should also enjoy good health. We must analyse that the girl should not get bed ridden and should not suffer from any chronic disease at young age. For good health houses are 1 5 9 11 and houses of bad health are 6 8 12 and 4 10.

3. Understanding nature or good nature – Naturally the wifeshould take care of the husband and children after marriage. The nature of the girl is key factor which will make the married life happy. Following aspects should be considered for the nature of the girl

·         Aggressive nature: For aggressive nature check number of 7,8,12 combinations in the planets. If combination 7,8,12 appears in 4 or more planets then the nature is aggressive. However if it appears similarly in boy’s horoscope also then we can give a second thought to the Horoscope. The boy should not have this combination in majority of planets.

·         Depression: 2,1,6,8 is combination of depression and lack of confidence which should not appear in majority of planets. If girl will be depressive and lacks confidence you can understand it is really difficult for husband to withstand pressure of the society and children alone.

·         Sentiments: Cancer Ascendant when its Lord, Moon signifies 6,8,12 Houses or Moon in Ascendant signifying Houses 6,8,12 makes native sentimental. This cannot be matched with girl of aggressive nature. Whereas if Moon for Cancer Ascendant signifying other Houses is passable. Girl can be sentimental but should be to a certain limit.

·         Cohesive Nature: A number of 5,9,11 and also 2, 7(with 2,5,9,11) give extremely loving and caring nature. Such a girl is ideal which has these houses in majority of planets but not in all planets as excess of everything is bad. 

·         Separative tendencies: Combination 1,6,10 signifies that the native will not adjust with the husband and 1,4,10 gives dry nature. She will hardly interested in husband and even kids.

4. Her horoscope should be positive for child birth - Combination of child birth are 2,5,11. Girl having 1,4,10 suggests that in the periods of planets signifying 1,4,10 native will not be able to produce children. This combination is also of impotency.

5. Should be of good character and have good personality – The girl in question should not be interested in relations other than husband. It will shake the relations between wifeand husband and the whole house obviously. If maximum planets in the Horoscope signify 5,8,12 native undergoes extramarital affair in such periods. However if 5,12 and 5,8 are signified then extramarital affair cannot surely happen in India and more so if 5,12 and 5,8 are signified with 9 and / or 11 physical affair other than spouse is not possible.

6. Should have fairly good professional career and financial growth - It is desirable to see the Horoscope of the wife for profession if anyone is interested in working wife. Houses 2,6,7,10,11 are positive for profession whereas Houses 5,8,12 are negative for profession.

Conclusion – After looking into social constraints, age consideration etc. is done if the girl has long life, good health, good professional life, good nature and good character she is acceptable as bride. Health and nature etc. of our biy is not important. We are in search of an ideal wifenot ideal husband. However in the report we mention the health, nature, child bearing capacity professional life of the boy also. Last and not the least physical compatibility of both boy and girl is seen for which you can read my article how we do it. Henceforth kundali milan or match making report is made keeping these things into consideration. 

In addition to this Gun Milan and Manglik consideration is also sent however these two things are of no use for compatibility. In Gun milan only Moon is considered however we check all the nine planet, Nakshatra, sub lords, Ascendant of both boy and girl for matchmaking. Similarly Manglik consideration is of not much importance although we write it down also.